What happens when a Man is not a Man?

“We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons… but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” ― Gloria Steinem Before you read any further, read this: Vitotow’s (1981) “Ten commandments for Manhood” Thou shalt not be weak, nor have a weak God before you. Thou shalt not fail thyself, nor…

When going to church becomes boring

    “Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.” ― Garrison Keillor       Important Notice– I won’t be posting regularly because of my upcoming exams- please bear with me  🙂 .  I really don’t have anything…

What then is Love?

Love by Simon Siwak, 2012. Digital artwork “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower Please don’t ask me what love is because I don’t know. I don’t want to say things that would make me or probably you angry. All I know is love makes…

Dear men, not all Feminists are Angry

“Black Girls… Don’t be afraid to use your voice. Your thoughts, opinions, and ideas are just as important as anybody else. When you speak, speak with boldness and purpose. Have courage, be confident, and always be true to yourself! Live your life fearlessly! Your voice has GREAT power; don’t be afraid to utilize it when…

The need to unchain African women

        “No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow. ” – Alice Walker I just finished reading a novel Nervous Condition by Tsitsi Dangarembga, a Zimbabwean author, and I don’t know if ‘m sad,angry or indifferent. I think it’s all mixed up. I am angry at each one…

Dear women, you owe no dumb man an Apology

“Hand off my ass or I’ll rip off your balls.” ― Katie McGarry, Dare You To “Most women are all too familiar with men like Calvin Smith. Men whose sense of prerogative renders them deaf when women say, “No thanks,” “Not interested,” or even “Fuck off, creep.” ― Jon Krakauer, Missoula: Rape and the Justice…

When some Educated African Men become dumb

“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look…

When will ‘Broken’ African women stop taking solace in the grave?

Igor Lukyanov – illustrator, artist and graphic designer: Weeping Mother & Child “If we are to fight discrimination and injustice against women we must start from the home for if a woman cannot be safe in her own house then she cannot be expected to feel safe anywhere.” ― Aysha Taryam           There’s so much…

Transition

A guest post by an astonishing writer   _tutuadedoyin Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it and accept it- anonymous.                 Yesterday, I went to bed with echoes of my cries…

Weeping Dolls

“Yes I am weird, weird is good. Normal is overrated.” ― Mad-D ‘M just a girl that has come to love the taste of sadness and the whispers of silence Without it,  is like loosing myself in the midst of voices I hate physical pain The ones intertwined around the corners of heart brings me…