What happens when a Pastor maltreats his Wife?

“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it”- Roseanne Barr While growing up, I used to think marrying a pastor was the best way to have a good man. I was wrong!!! You only marry a good man when you’ve found the right one; irrespective of his…

Why every woman should become a Bitch

“Nice girls need to know what a Bitch Understands”- Sherry Argov From the words of Sherry Argov-Why Men Love Bitches To strong women: Jessy, Stephanie and Emem If you’ve stumbled upon this post or blog without a clear knowledge of who a Bitch is, then I need to redefine it. Sherry Argov- A Bitch is…

What happens when a Man is not a Man?

“We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons… but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” ― Gloria Steinem Before you read any further, read this: Vitotow’s (1981) “Ten commandments for Manhood” Thou shalt not be weak, nor have a weak God before you. Thou shalt not fail thyself, nor…

What then is Love?

Love by Simon Siwak, 2012. Digital artwork “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower Please don’t ask me what love is because I don’t know. I don’t want to say things that would make me or probably you angry. All I know is love makes…

The need to unchain African women

        “No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow. ” – Alice Walker I just finished reading a novel Nervous Condition by Tsitsi Dangarembga, a Zimbabwean author, and I don’t know if ‘m sad,angry or indifferent. I think it’s all mixed up. I am angry at each one…

Dear women, you owe no dumb man an Apology

“Hand off my ass or I’ll rip off your balls.” ― Katie McGarry, Dare You To “Most women are all too familiar with men like Calvin Smith. Men whose sense of prerogative renders them deaf when women say, “No thanks,” “Not interested,” or even “Fuck off, creep.” ― Jon Krakauer, Missoula: Rape and the Justice…

Confronting the Fact that most Africans are Depressed-How did it happen?

“To deny someone’s feelings or experiences it to literally deny their reality.” ― Danu Morrigan, You’re Not Crazy, It’s Your Mother:            Seriously in Africa, we love to prove that we fine, okay and a bit emotionless because we are Blacks. Coming in terms with depression is “Foreign” and it isn’t part of our culture….

Are Feminists willing to pay the Gender price?

“Gender is not an easy conversation to have. It makes people uncomfortable, sometimes even irritable. Both men and women are resistant to talk about gender, or are quick to dismiss the problems of gender. Because thinking of changing the status quo is always uncomfortable.” ― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie           Before I dive into this question, …

Gender Equality -The only way Forward?

“The role of gender in society is the most complicated thing I’ve ever spent a lot of time learning about.” ― Randall Munroe Yesterday, I had the opportunity of having a great conversation with two intelligent people. Well, we disagreed to agree on a lot of things concerning the issue of “Gender”-subjects like streaming out…

Transition

A guest post by an astonishing writer   _tutuadedoyin Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it and accept it- anonymous.                 Yesterday, I went to bed with echoes of my cries…