How do you get over the loss of a loved one?

“Whoever said that loss gets easier with time was a liar. Here’s what really happens: the space between the times you miss them grow longer. Then when you remember to miss them again, it’s still with a stabbing pain to the heart. And you have guilt. Guilt because it’s been too long since you missed…

What happens when a Pastor maltreats his Wife?

“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it”- Roseanne Barr While growing up, I used to think marrying a pastor was the best way to have a good man. I was wrong!!! You only marry a good man when you’ve found the right one; irrespective of his…

Six reasons why my Friends are still Single

“Don’t let society fool you into believing that if you don’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend then you are destined for a life of misery. The Dalai Lama has been single for the last 80 years and he is one of the happiest people on earth. Stop searching for happiness in places outside yourself and…

What happens when a Man is not a Man?

“We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons… but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” ― Gloria Steinem Before you read any further, read this: Vitotow’s (1981) “Ten commandments for Manhood” Thou shalt not be weak, nor have a weak God before you. Thou shalt not fail thyself, nor…

For Women Only-#FWO: Are you struggling with an Eating Disorder?

Henceforth, every splendid Wednesday on the blog would be themed #FWO-“For Women Only”. Serious health issues and other subject matters relating to women would be identified and discussed; nevertheless, this doesn’t call for the total exclusion of male participation. This is a free zone, join the conversation! According to National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and…

You shouldn’t talk about Marriage if you haven’t learnt how to Love

It is not a lack of Love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages” – Friedrich Nietzsche The institution of Marriage has always been a continuous string that many people look forward to. Although the state of being married entails a voluntarily attachment for life, it’s however ironic that the bliss of some…

What then is Love?

Love by Simon Siwak, 2012. Digital artwork “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower Please don’t ask me what love is because I don’t know. I don’t want to say things that would make me or probably you angry. All I know is love makes…

The need to unchain African women

        “No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow. ” – Alice Walker I just finished reading a novel Nervous Condition by Tsitsi Dangarembga, a Zimbabwean author, and I don’t know if ‘m sad,angry or indifferent. I think it’s all mixed up. I am angry at each one…