How do you get over the loss of a loved one?

“Whoever said that loss gets easier with time was a liar. Here’s what really happens: the space between the times you miss them grow longer. Then when you remember to miss them again, it’s still with a stabbing pain to the heart. And you have guilt. Guilt because it’s been too long since you missed…

What happens when a Pastor maltreats his Wife?

“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it”- Roseanne Barr While growing up, I used to think marrying a pastor was the best way to have a good man. I was wrong!!! You only marry a good man when you’ve found the right one; irrespective of his…

Why every woman should become a Bitch

“Nice girls need to know what a Bitch Understands”- Sherry Argov From the words of Sherry Argov-Why Men Love Bitches To strong women: Jessy, Stephanie and Emem If you’ve stumbled upon this post or blog without a clear knowledge of who a Bitch is, then I need to redefine it. Sherry Argov- A Bitch is…

Six reasons why my Friends are still Single

“Don’t let society fool you into believing that if you don’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend then you are destined for a life of misery. The Dalai Lama has been single for the last 80 years and he is one of the happiest people on earth. Stop searching for happiness in places outside yourself and…

What then is Love?

Love by Simon Siwak, 2012. Digital artwork “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower Please don’t ask me what love is because I don’t know. I don’t want to say things that would make me or probably you angry. All I know is love makes…

The need to unchain African women

        “No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow. ” – Alice Walker I just finished reading a novel Nervous Condition by Tsitsi Dangarembga, a Zimbabwean author, and I don’t know if ‘m sad,angry or indifferent. I think it’s all mixed up. I am angry at each one…

Dear women, you owe no dumb man an Apology

“Hand off my ass or I’ll rip off your balls.” ― Katie McGarry, Dare You To “Most women are all too familiar with men like Calvin Smith. Men whose sense of prerogative renders them deaf when women say, “No thanks,” “Not interested,” or even “Fuck off, creep.” ― Jon Krakauer, Missoula: Rape and the Justice…

When some Educated African Men become dumb

“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look…

When will ‘Broken’ African women stop taking solace in the grave?

Igor Lukyanov – illustrator, artist and graphic designer: Weeping Mother & Child “If we are to fight discrimination and injustice against women we must start from the home for if a woman cannot be safe in her own house then she cannot be expected to feel safe anywhere.” ― Aysha Taryam           There’s so much…