My view on becoming Friendly

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What I want to say to young girls is forget about likability. If you start thinking about being likable you are not going to tell your story honestly because you are going to be so concerned with not offending, and that’s going to ruin your story so forget about likability.- Chimamanda Adichie

I truly apologize for my inconsistency in blogging. Lately, I habe been stressed out especially with school and stuffs. Worse still lectures haven’t fully started and ‘m already exhausted. So I made some resolutions, and one of which is to become more friendly, or amiable because I get comments like ‘m too formal, I have high expectations for people, too cold and stuffs like that, and so I decided to chill.

Well, here’s my review on becoming friendly. Firstly, I don’t think I like it; secondly, it leaves one vulnerable to lots of odd and annoying attitudes or behaviors that you either have to condone or reject which could cause an unhealthy annoyance. Though it can get one a couple of familiar faces, I actually think keeping a small circle is the best. That way, life doesn’t get too complicated and you finally have little or no unwarranted attitudes to deal with or even have to be okay with what you aren’t okay with.

Question: What kind of friends do you keep?

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16 Comments Add yours

  1. Ngumabi says:

    Doesn’t it just feel easier to not make friends? Hahaha!

    But honestly being friendly is good. Though at a certain stage in life it’s difficult to make new friends.
    For some reason, as I grow older my circle of friends gets smaller. Maybe because I also found a friend in myself. But a tree cannot form a forest. So despite the odds, it’s great to have in mind that ‘somewhere on mother earth, someone is my friend’.

    Cheers, my dear!

    N’Graffi

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    1. Miss.Kizza says:

      I totally agree with you ; being friendly is good and its true as you grow older the circle becomes smaller . Not every friend you make will get into your intimate circle and it is okay. We make friends in school, lecture rooms, bus stop, etc and these help us through some stages/phases of life.

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      1. Oluwanifemi says:

        True…I never actually thought over what u said that until now-as u get older the circle of friends reduces…it’s actually true, ‘m always itching to meet new people, but even when I do, it’s just difficult to keep up especially if they aren’t more like me🙈🙈

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    2. Oluwanifemi says:

      True…Sometimes being alone is the best option, at the same time one still need people to communicate with.

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  2. Jesse says:

    What does it mean to be friendly sef? I think it means to be open to potential friendships and give people a chance while not compromising on who you are. For friends to be friends at all, they have to fit you; not everyone will fit, and to act fake in the name of being friendly will defeat the whole point of friendship itself

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      True Jesse…Thank you for visiting..

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  3. Adeyooye Oluwafisayo says:

    I really don’t think u can or should be friends with everyone… I particularly love small circles and I take my time to choose those worthy of being part of it,maybe cause I dislike shitty people or anything/anyone that stresses me more than I already am and I sincerely think it’s the best.You could be friendly to an extent but make sure u don’t take it to the extreme and end up losing your respect and a few good friends u can count on anytime is all u actually need…

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Lol….true…Thank you Fisayo…ur comment sounds a lot like everything I want to say.

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  4. It is so good to see a post from you again. As you know, our election became very uncivil and downright nasty. It gave me opportunity to purge my friend list of Trump people who called me stupid and uninformed because of my choice. It was a freeing experience. I agree with those who question the desire to be friends with lots of people. A few true friends are wonderful. And I am one who burns bridges, no going back. Those purged friends can kiss my ass.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thank you ☺…my apologies for replying late…lol😀😀…Trump’s victory is still a shock to the world. Good step…it’s better to be surrounded by few people with positive thinkings than many who spoils one’s day with criticism, and hate. 👍

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    2. Oluwanifemi says:

      Friends are those who respects each other opinions

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  5. Pribodunke says:

    Well being friendly is quite worth it cuz you don’t know who is who and who is a potential help mate in the future. I prefer a small circle though and have a lot of acquaintances

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      True…thanks for visiting😊

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  6. I think you read my mind and wrote this article. I think another reason for being unfriendly could be as s result of being shy or insecure about something (in my own case) or when a person hates to be disrespected. I love this article

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  7. A says:

    Just stopped by your blog, and I love the post, especially the small quote at the top. You said it as it is.

    It’s true, having a small circle of friends is way better than having a massive group, who end up stabbing you in the back. Acquaintances 😖 I feel you can be nice and friendly but you just need to know your boundaries; you’re being friendly because you want to, not because you want to be there friends. Especially if your at work and working with people. At times it’s exhausting especially if you know you won’t be friends but, at least you’re sharing kindness. If you see someone not treating you kindly then I would say, reduce that friendliness 😂

    A x

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