“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it”- Roseanne Barr
While growing up, I used to think marrying a pastor was the best way to have a good man. I was wrong!!! You only marry a good man when you’ve found the right one; irrespective of his occupation. Often times, I still wonder why I thought marrying a pastor was the perfect idea; I think it’s because of the prospect attached to the title “Pastor”. The expectation that he should be close to perfect; would treat a woman right and exercise the virtue of patience in bringing up a family. Don’t get me wrong, but there are pastors and there are pastors!!!
Everyday, the values in the society keep depreciating, you know why? -Because some of our role models have gone rogue. Isn’t it ironical that the same set of people, who counsels one on how to keep their homes, oversee the character of a woman, satisfy a husband and build a family are the same ones who are monsters behind the mask.
“The trouble with women is that they get all excited about nothing- and then marry him” – Cher
I find it absurd whenever I hear life experiences in which some men of God batter up their wives and even their children. You see a loving man every Sunday smiling at you and within you, you say, “Yes this pastor is a good man”, what a man? He is a father, son and friend to most of his congregations’ wives. Everywoman looks at his beautiful wife who is always beside him, sometimes holding his hands and they stylishly adore and envy her. They even call her mummy. Little did they know that daddy and mummy are like cat and rat at home.
I know of women who have landed in the hospital because their husbands who are pastors have used objects to beat them and even threatened to kill and bury them. Sad right? The worst part is, until some of these pastors are detained by the police with dead alive wife in the hospital, the world would never know what callous creature he is. Sad part! The world is still blind and do not hesitate in saying “ Perhaps she pushed him too far, you know…women can be very demanding, needy and annoying…that’s why he would have been frustrated to beat her up” seriously?
I watched a video of recent in which a man of God kept complaining that he had been having issues with his wife because of her anger issues. Aside from that, she wore a lot of beautifying things which he didn’t like and which he always told her to stop wearing. He painted himself as the victim. It wasn’t until the wife was interviewed that one could see the bruises on her face. She was almost in tears when she began to talk about how he beats her up and refuses everything she does just because he is the man. When asked if they still loved each other, the woman said yes, and the man said “She’s my wife”. What a Marriage!!!
If you are reading this today, irrespective of your gender, race, occupation…start treating people with love.
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