What happens when a Pastor maltreats his Wife?

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“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it”- Roseanne Barr

While growing up, I used to think marrying a pastor was the best way to have a good man. I was wrong!!! You only marry a good man when you’ve found the right one; irrespective of his occupation. Often times, I still wonder why I thought marrying a pastor was the perfect idea; I think it’s because of the prospect attached to the title “Pastor”. The expectation that he should be close to perfect; would treat a woman right and exercise the virtue of patience in bringing up a family. Don’t get me wrong, but there are pastors and there are pastors!!!

Everyday, the values in the society keep depreciating, you know why? -Because some of our role models have gone rogue. Isn’t it ironical that the same set of people, who counsels one on how to keep their homes, oversee the character of a woman, satisfy a husband and build a family are the same ones who are monsters behind the mask.

“The trouble with women is that they get all excited about nothing- and then marry him” – Cher

I find it absurd whenever I hear life experiences in which some men of God batter up their wives and even their children. You see a loving man every Sunday smiling at you and within you, you say, “Yes this pastor is a good man”, what a man? He is a father, son and friend to most of his congregations’ wives. Everywoman looks at his beautiful wife who is always beside him, sometimes holding his hands and they stylishly adore and envy her. They even call her mummy. Little did they know that daddy and mummy are like cat and rat at home.

I know of women who have landed in the hospital because their husbands who are pastors have used objects to beat them and even threatened to kill and bury them. Sad right? The worst part is, until some of these pastors are detained by the police with dead alive wife in the hospital, the world would never know what callous creature he is. Sad part! The world is still blind and do not hesitate in saying “ Perhaps she pushed him too far, you know…women can be very demanding, needy and annoying…that’s why he would have been frustrated to beat her up” seriously?

I watched a video of recent in which a man of God kept complaining that he had been having issues with his wife because of her anger issues. Aside from that, she wore a lot of beautifying things which he didn’t like and which he always told her to stop wearing. He painted himself as the victim. It wasn’t until the wife was interviewed that one could see the bruises on her face. She was almost in tears when she began to talk about how he beats her up and refuses everything she does just because he is the man. When asked if they still loved each other, the woman said yes, and the man said “She’s my wife”. What a Marriage!!!

If you are reading this today, irrespective of your gender, race, occupation…start treating people with love.

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18 Comments Add yours

  1. joseyphina says:

    Wow for a supposed man of God to have such a mentality is unfortunate. Hmmm

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Very unfortunate!!!

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    2. D'Dream says:

      Very unfortunate but it is sad when many of them cannot differentiate between spiritual authority, personal and character development.
      Apart from the clergy, there are many who occupy high position in the society with desirable character to back it up. It is quite unfortunate really

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  2. A man of God or not he does not have any right to treat his woman or any woman for that matter in an unacceptable manner. It’s just sad that people avoid looking into such practices in our society!

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      True…every individual is worthy of respect…thanks for visiting

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      1. Thank you and the pleasure is mine.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thank you for reblogging

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Joanna Lynn says:

    Sad but true. Very well written.

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  4. “ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE” Beatles 1967. Great song, great soul food for the world.

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  5. Funke olotu says:

    Its heartbreaking that this is true, and it’s also obvious that these ones beating their wives are fake pastors, an average good man will not beat his wife talk less of a real pastor

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Lol…Wolves in form of sheep’s clothings

      Like

  6. Shona says:

    This basically happens in some marriages even if the men aren’t pastors. No man has the right to beat a woman. Especially not a woman you claim to love. Marriage is not a bed of roses but beating is just out of it!

    http://www.officialshona.com.ng

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Definitely, some people have the mind set that as long as marriage

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    2. Oluwanifemi says:

      Definitely, some people have the mind set that as long as marriages are filled with ups and downs, one form of violence is bound to occur.

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  7. A civilian man with a militarised brain. Religion doesn’t mean anything.You could worship cow dung for all I care but what I am concerned about is morals cis that’s the defining quality of a man

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      True…Religion is something else now; filled with discrimination yet lacking morals and understanding.

      Like

  8. D'Dream says:

    What I will say about this. Someone’s occupation shouldn’t be user to judge the character of a person.
    There are good and bad pastor just like there are good accountants and bad accountant. Now what made them perceived to be good or bad is not in the spiritual or secular performance. So ladies should be aware of being blindfolded by spirituality and religious propaganda.
    Every one has flaws but be careful to choose the flaws you can handle, if not marriage is not by force
    Like I would always say- spirituality doesn’t cancel common sense.

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