“Nice girls need to know what a Bitch Understands”- Sherry Argov
From the words of Sherry Argov-Why Men Love Bitches
To strong women: Jessy, Stephanie and Emem
If you’ve stumbled upon this post or blog without a clear knowledge of who a Bitch is, then I need to redefine it.
Sherry Argov- A Bitch is a woman who is kind, yet strong. She has a strength that is ever so subtle. She doesn’t give her life and she won’t chase a man. She won’t let a man think he has a 100 percent hold on her. And she will stand up for herself when he steps over the line. A Bitch is an empowered woman who derives tremendous strength from the ability to be an independent thinker, particularly in a world that still teaches women how to be self abnegating. This is a woman who doesn’t live someone else standard only her own.
So you think being a “Nice girl” is a compliment? A Nice girl is one who is always willing to overcompensate, invest and give everything to a man she barely knows, without him having to invest much in the relationship. She’s the woman who goes along with what she thinks he will like or want because she wants to keep the relationship at all costs. -Sherry Argov. Now, ask yourself, what category do I fall in?
First and foremost, I like to categorize “Nice” girls as Entrapped Ladies who have no knowledge of who they are or women who deliberately stay in this category in to seek approval. This is what the fucked up society has turned some ladies- to have no knowledge of their own, but focus on the man. To every girl out there who doesn’t know that they are “Nice girls”, or is being pressured to be the “Nice Girl” in order to hook a man or be approachable. It’s high time you unlearn cheap doctrines and reposition your life’s goal.
You think being the sweet nice African girl would land a ring in your hand? You think being nice would keep him or make him value you? You think being the nice girl would make his mama love you? Dear ladies, it would only get you a probably good sex, a tainted name like (Iyawo wa)-(our wife) on the lips of his friends in your presence and a cheap recognition. Because he tells you he likes skin ladies with big boobs and backside who wakes him up with breakfast in bed, or whatever, you begin to change yourself by worrying on how to get a big boobs, buy yansh(butt) pad, and spending unnecessary skin creams and time trying to make him the best meal. You change your life and revolve around him. You pick up his underwears and wash, and perform the duties of a wife, so you can be a wife material when you are only in a 2weeks relationship. Sad right? Some women have been through this, but definitely not a Bitch.
The first step to becoming a Bitch is Self Love. A bitch is always comfortable in her own skin and cannot be made to feel bad or insecure about herself. She doesn’t overcompensate to keep a man. She doesn’t do all the things the nice girl does to keep a man only to realize that he is gone even though she did all those things for him. Baby girl! He left you for the one you least expected- The Bitch. Seriously, I hear stories of young beautiful women who damage their wombs for men because they have been nice. Always nice to abort the First…Fifth…Ninth time and end up being womb less with a broken heart and a runaway supposed lover. Worst still end up with the girl next-door. Mistake- A Bitch wouldn’t have aborted in the first place. Even if she did, definitely not the second time, she always knows when to let go of worthless materials, she always reads between the lines and understands those signs. Overcompensating ruins a woman’s pride and Over availability poses another problem. He tells you to head over to his place at the convenience of his time, and quickly you drop everything and there you are knocking on his door. Girl! You are just a booty call. A bitch is more selective about her availability.
You do everything right and he still complains, you do everything wrong and he says you aren’t good enough. Girl move on. You don’t have to be good enough for a man; you just have to have a positive attitude about yourself. You are too special to be needy, and too beautiful to fucked up. Become the Bitch that is never afraid to be without him.
A tip of Sherry Argov attraction principles
Anything a person chases in life runs away. To those of you who doesn’t realise how valuable you are, here’s for you. Stop chasing man!
The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.
A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has 100 percent hold of.
It’s your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him
If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else.
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References: Sherry Argov (2002). Why Men Love Bitches. United States: Adam Media