“Don’t let society fool you into believing that if you don’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend then you are destined for a life of misery. The Dalai Lama has been single for the last 80 years and he is one of the happiest people on earth. Stop searching for happiness in places outside yourself and start finding it where it has always been: within you”. –Miya Yamanouchi
To all those who don’t know the definition of being single, here’s what single means.
- Single is not a status. It’s a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.- Anonymous
- Single is being too young for marriage, too old for games and too smart for players.-Anonymous
- Being single doesn’t necessarily mean you are available. Sometimes you have to put up a sign that says “Do not Disturb” on your heart- Wiz Khalifa
- Single is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.- Mandy Hale
Female friendships that work are relationships in which women help each other belong to themselves.” ― Louise Bernikow
Every Friday night, we cling to the softness our pillows and say “Dear oh life, where hath thou been; find me still and let the heart be filled”. Romantic movies are what we gaze at, on every sweet Girl’s Night when we question the fault in our stars and change our Smartphone’s wallpaper to words like Me before You or You plus Me or Never let Me go. Girl’s night- the only night we come together and talk about stuffs.
Well, you see, the issue with my friends is that they aren’t really single; they are just focused on other things that define their uniqueness.
Uyai, for example is too focused on the smiles she derives from the conversation with her guy best friend. We‘ve advised her countless times to let go and stop holding on because their friendship wouldn’t change its status. But now we fear we are losing her because with each passing day; she isn’t only falling in love, but she’s grown to be in love and fantasize about a guy whose defined ship is nothing, but a spelt out Friend before it. Our Dear sweet Uyai, falling in love with ones best friend can either be the sweetest or sour thing to ever happen in a friendship, but the worst of all is letting good things slip away under the blink of one’s very own eyes.
Ifunaya is just too different, and by different I mean too beautiful to be single. Hahaha! Her light skin complexion, rounded shaped figure and beautiful homeland from which she hails from are defined lists in which she uses in her screening and selection. She never fails to highlight in bold to our faces that a girl like her needs a complementary light skin guy, from an Igbo clan to work all the magic. Taa, Black Yoruba Demons are not my type, she’d say, there are as well broke. We never fail to tell her too that Ugoona and Uchena are not our type too because we don’t want our destinies to be licked by light skinned Igbo boys.
Omalicha too is just Ifunaya, sisters from the same clan. She always talks about her hot boiling soup for the men with big cash that are ready to make her bride price nothing but a fortune. So long he’s loaded, age is nothing but a number and tribe is just a social division used in depriving people from true endowed love.
And there is our sweet Bella, the one who never admits to have a girl crush on any of her admirers, yet guards them jealously in her heart and toss them around with a kind of romantic neglect that Korean men display to the women they secretly admire in the movies we watch.
Another is Ireoluwa, some men say she’s too career oriented and boss like, but she’d tells us that she’s too busy making money and saying no to broke ass boys who are nothing but mamas boys.
And here’s to an exceptional friend, the only guy on the list, who watches every girl crush slip slowly away from his hands into the arms of other men because he is too scared to love, too quick to judge and so unready.
And here’s to me, Joselyn, the jobless one who never stops writing about her sweet single friends.
Ps: If you’ve not read “To my Four Friends who Love Chocolate more than Boys”, then you need to click this link to read it. https://thenifeminist.wordpress.com/2016/01/08/to-my-single-friends-who-love-chocolate-more-than-boys/
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