“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.”
― Wm. Paul Young
Sometimes ago, I listened to a radio show on issues concerning relationships. Majority of the men that called placed so much emphasis on female submission; some turned preachers- God message on wives submission to their husbands became the theme. On many occasions, I have come across men who have said that a woman must give them something to respect before respect can be established; I have never failed in telling them also that men should also give women something to be respected for. I’d like to ask, do we really need to give each other something before one is seen as an individual worthy of worth? You see, the question of submission from women to me is a very silly demand to want. Women are sweet beings, loving, caring, accommodating and even understanding. Men keep asking for submission from women, now to the men, what have you given women to make them submit to you? Some men can’t even listen to their parents or even treat their mothers right, yet they are the first to talk about domination. Have really men portrayed what it means to be a man? Have they taken responsibilities for their actions? Have men understood the underlying notion of submission? Several questions need to be answered- several concepts need to be understood.
You can’t expect a woman to submit to a man that mistreats her, and unloves the essence of her value. You can’t expect a woman to submit to man who perceives her as an object worth objectifying or viewed as a second class citizen. A woman can only submit to a man who submits to God; unfortunately some men are small gods who can’t submit to God. Why then do you ask when you can’t give?
Some men think that the notion of submission means slavery, accepting everything he says, making him feel he’s the man and he alone exist, letting him take control of one’s life, not being able to receive advice from his wife, some even feel they are god. Some men keep asking for female submission, yet the subject of submission is not automatic, it’s earned just like respect. We shouldn’t even call it submission; I‘d call it respect – reciprocal. At a religious gathering where I was once at, the essence of female submission was emphasized, and the duties of the man as head was stated to be the provider, man of the house and so forth etc If I may ask, does it mean one should fail to submit when a man is unworthy of providing or meeting the needs of his family?
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