“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.”
― C. JoyBell C.
It took a whole lot of time for women to be educated-African Women most especially. To understand that they deserved more than just ending up in the kitchen, or bearing children endlessly. I wouldn’t say that ‘m lucky to have not been born in those Era when all these laws and rules were enforced, perhaps I would have been killed out of much defiance. Nevertheless, we shouldn’t forget that there is still so much attacking the female gender. We say the society is improving and understanding the true essence of female education, yet I wonder why there are more boys than girls in my school. Yet I wonder why , a patriarchy minded fellow would say to me ” Nifemi, being a feminist is an offense to God, If some of the other girls in the department aren’t Yoruba, you as a Yoruba woman aren’t you supposed to know your duties as a woman to your husband- to kneel before him at all times, to understand that his priorities matters, to understand that if my husband beats me, I should stay and keep praying for him”.
I still don’t understand why some guys in my school would say without much thinking that if they had a female child they wouldn’t let her go to school, for all that mattered she was created for pleasure and cooking, and when it was night time these set of guys would not stop talking of how girls cheaply sold themselves to a one thousand Naira note. Such girls are the kind who makes you wonder if fighting for women was worth it. I am still angry at a dumb educated man who called me in my first year in the University because he thought I was a guy. He was shocked to realize I was a girl. Do you know what he said to me? ” I didn’t expect you to be a girl, you shouldn’t have passed this much with this kind of CGPA, but I ‘d give you some semesters more, and I can assure you that you ‘d drop because girls are often distracted by a lot of things most especially boys”. I stood there angry at him, and this anger I have bottled up within, carrying it with me to always shame him that I am the kind of woman who doesn’t get distracted by unnecessary things.
At the same time I still blame thousands of parent who force their female children to aspire to marriage rather than self empowerment, motivation, development. The concept of education is now an ornament meant to decorate the female and commodify her-a means for a higher bride price.
All the same, I am still happy that from the stage I could remember growing up, young girls have always been the ones leading in the class rooms, and I ‘d say to such women, keep staying strong-when we empower ourselves we empower a nation.