Aren’t African men happy for their wives success?

 

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Happy New Week everyone:),thanks for being so active on the Blog last week. Tomorrow, I ‘d start posting again.

Hope everyone is beginning to notice the frequent death of women caused by domestic violence? well, that’s a topic for tomorrow.

Back to this week questions- aren’t ‘African’ men happy for their wives success? “would you mind if your wife earned more than you? lets not forget that some jealous men have killed their wives because of this. Can you keep a joint account with your partner? Hahaha. Let’s not go there for now. Seriously I think some men really need to grow up or either strive hard. If you want to be the head of the family, you either take responsibility or you support your wife rather than swelling. What’s your opinion?

Reason for this question- Someone told me that many African men aren’t happy when their wives are successful more than them . Is that true?

32 Comments Add yours

  1. toksdavid says:

    This though lol, but really that’s why we have alot of housewives in Nigeria due to the fact that their husbands can’t stand seeing them earn more than they do, all because they want to remain the “head” of the family.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      That’s true…some men are just selfish..

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    2. Oluwanifemi says:

      If you’ve heard about the incident where a husband slit the throat of his wife who was the breadwinner of the home because she refused to give him some money or so and becoz he was jealous of her- it’s just insane.

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      1. toksdavid says:

        There are a whole lot of things happening in most homes

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  2. panashdee says:

    Hi,Nice post.
    I think it has a lot to do with their ego and the fact that they see it as the ‘head of house’ title being stripped away from them. This is why its important to be with someone who doesn’t have esteem issues and someone who would talk to you no matter what.
    I read somewhere that jealousy between spouses is not uncommon, especially when it comes to financial and career matters. I think Men should actually just suck it up and work on themeselves because the women of our generation are strong, determined and independent and we won’t drop out crowns just because of some petty jealousy.
    Sorry for the long comment,I really got right into it 🙈🙈

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      This is really good…now a days, men aren’t ambitious, I think it’s becoz of the stereotype that whatever they are, they would always find a woman. I love the women in our generation, they are really aspiring for greater things yet to come. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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  3. emmanuel says:

    I think the reason why most men aren’t happy for their successful wives is because men have traditionally defined their manhood(head of the family) by their roles;the function they perform for their families and also in the society.They are still living on the pre modern concept of what it means to be a man.In the olden days,biology contributed largely to the roles of men and women. Men are generally physically stronger than women,so men were the ones who went went out to hunt and provide for the family. Females are biological equipped to have babies,so all they do then was to care for the children at home.However,years have gone by and now,there’s been a change in the roles of both men and women in the family and in the society.Both genders can now go to school to earn a degree and secure a job.Also there is now birth control(condoms,abortions,contraceptives),given the women the power to decide if they want to get pregnant or not.So now that the women also can now provide for the family,men’s basic conception of been the head of the family is now been threatened, disrupted,frustrated and struggling to adapt to a new concept(change in gender roles).They have found themselves in what I call ‘a crisis of roles’.Men no longer have the job that they held almost exclusively for centuries. They used to have a role that was very clear—one they didn‘t share with their wives..so now,I think its now up to us men to find a new definition of ‘MANHOOD’

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thank for this good point… I really like the way you traced it “gender roles” …that’s true now Men need to find a new definition of Manhood, perhaps it can be measured according to their 10 packs 😆😂

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      1. Emem says:

        Lol. Silly besty😁

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  4. I think it depends on the attitude African wives have regarding their success. Some become rude or arrogant and less submissive to their husbands. That’s a major problem in an African home.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      That’s true at the same time, I sti believe that some men make themselves to feel threatened. Once their wives becomes the breadwinner they begin to advance to the stage of withdrawal, letting all the burden on the wife

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      1. True. Some men do that too. There should be a balance. Men should not put the large part of the burden on the wife. I think really getting to know each other before marriage plays a role here.

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  5. funkeolotu says:

    It’s the thing with the Ego of African men and their already programmed mindset that if your wife is more successful than you, you’ll be reduced to nothing and then you’re ‘not man enough ‘ this mentality is detrimental and should be wiped off the coming generation.
    Thats why most of them are not happy with their wife’s success

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      That’s true Funke, these young boys are really growing fast…do you think this mentality can easily be wiped of the coming generation? I hope so

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      1. funkeolotu says:

        ‘Easily ‘I really don’t think so but let’s hope and continue preaching 😀

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  6. styledcolorfully says:

    The truth is most men just want their wives to be dependent on them, reason being that they want to feel important and needed in the home. So if a wife starts earning more than her husband she might be a bit skeptical when it comes to asking for money.
    Having a joint account would depend on how my husband handles money.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thanks for commenting😊…Hahaha…I wldn’t even av a joint account probably for upkeep of d children dats all…😃

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  7. D'Dream says:

    perhaps African men need a new definition of manhood. For me, there is nothing wrong with the women achieving much than husby or making more money however some women begins to shove it down their husby throat.
    Both genders have self esteem issues and should work on it instead if taking it out on their partners.
    I still believe strongly in the bible admonition of husband loving their wives and wives submitting to their husband. submission becomes easy when genuine love is present.

    lately i read a story about a couple, the wife practically was the breadwinner for 3 years because the husband was retrenched few months after marriage. in fact she wasn’t complaining or being arrogant because the husband show love to her.
    I believe understanding that you are made to complement each other and not to compete with each other will make all the difference no matter who is more successful or earning more

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thank u…good Point…sometyms even when Submission is attained from d woman some men still swell up and feel dat smfin is missing…

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      1. D'Dream says:

        that’s why some canvass getting hooked with a frriend

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  8. evanyambu says:

    if a man really loves u he wouldn’t be jealous about his wife earning more but would take it as a challenge to work harder and be on the same ladder as her. This should even bring them together as they healthily compete against each other and mold marriage to greater heights.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Thank u…I love it when men support der wives and 2geda aspire for greater things

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  9. Those men who aren’t happy with their wives’s successes are simply fools. I believe in supporting one another in a marriage. However, this is often hampered by the power struggle in the home.
    For the man, I will advice to leave the chauvinistic, village African man thinking back in the village. Times have changed. Women are going to school. Women are striving for self fulfillment in their careers.
    For the woman, I would advice to leave the corporate, authoritative stance back at the office. Once you are in the house with your husband and kids, it doesn’t matter what kind of extreme feminism you subscribe to, your position at the workplace and the number of first class honors you have attained in your numerous degrees, you are simply a mum and wife.
    Be a good mother to your children, be a good wife to your husband. For the husband, forget how higher in rank than you in her career your wife is, in the home, you are simply a father and husband. Be a good father to your kids, be a good husband to your wife.
    In such a scenario, support will come easily. Before you know it, the husband is well on his way to being an achiever. Remember, behind every successful man, is a strong woman.
    This nonsensical power struggle in the home needs to go.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      I like the fact that you are always blunt when sharing ur views…lolz…your 1st statement said it all…👏👏👏seriously this is a counselling message for married ones

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  10. Jona says:

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  11. naijabookworm says:

    I think it’s true for uneducated African men who feel the only way to earn respect is if they dominate their spouses in every way.(Going to school doesn’t equal education in my opinion)

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      That’s true, educated or no education, there’s is need for female empowerment

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  12. Jubilee says:

    lol…some African men are happy with their wife’s success while others choose to be blinded with the men being the head of the family thingy…

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      Patriarchy…dats dz men problem

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  13. Angel Adugbe says:

    Most are not.. we live in a patriarchal world where men are excepted to be the chief breadwinner . in situations where the woman plays that role.. these men (who dont know how to deal with their emotions in the first place) start “swelling” and adopt pride & resentment towards their hardworking wives. this never ends well. its honestly so sad.

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    1. Oluwanifemi says:

      👍 true words…thnkz for stopping by

      Liked by 1 person

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