“Gender is not an easy conversation to have. It makes people uncomfortable, sometimes even irritable. Both men and women are resistant to talk about gender, or are quick to dismiss the problems of gender. Because thinking of changing the status quo is always uncomfortable.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Before I dive into this question, I ‘d really love to express my view on Feminism. I am a Feminist to the core, and I believe in Gender Equality. The literature’s of Chimamanda Adichie, Alice walker, Amma Darko, Maya Angelou, Mariama Ba and the likes of others have really made me focused on catering for Women affairs. I believe that irrespective of every gender, we all need to be treated fairly.
If you ‘ve read my previous post on “Gender Equality-The only way forward”…I mentioned earlier that the basis of my whole discussion is on a conversation in which I learned a lot on the issue of gender problems.
One of which is addressing and upholding the gender equality agenda on the part of most feminist. I was asked this question…If a woman hits a man, what’s should be the appropriate response? I said you should hit her back…it’s a two way thing. Then they began to laugh- You know why? Because many women wouldn’t agree with my view because many feminist would rather allow the matter to go astray and tell the guy to cool off or protest if the the guy responds back. And then I asked myself this…How many women (feminist) are willingly to pay for the bill on a date with a guy? Seriously, only a few women would actually do that. The question is would I actually pay for it? To be very honest, I would hesitate to pay with the mind set that the guy should actually stop me and then pay…if he doesn’t I ‘d consider him stingy.
Why should I wait for him to pay for my bills if I tag myself a Feminist who believes in gender equality. If the principle of gender equality were to be carried out, I should be the one paying for my bills, but a lot of women would disagree because “he is the man, and why shouldn’t he pay”. I still have a lot of things to talk about, but I ‘d stop here for today.
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